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Post by jeyu0422 on Sept 7, 2015 16:10:11 GMT -5
Hi TuTu and Dana, I would like to add my name to the welcoming committee. MOST of us have "New Member" by our names anyway. (By the way, thanks Dana, for moving much of Preicless Pearls over. I have copied quite a bit of several threads, but have not yet had the time to move it over). I would love to hear from some of our more recent members on the old forum as well, such as J, kklove, Petuny, and others (no intentional exclusions). I hope they are doing well. Mark/Jeyu
JFDI
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Sept 6, 2015 21:41:26 GMT -5
Post by jeyu0422 on Sept 6, 2015 21:41:26 GMT -5
Sam and PJ, I hope you both stay, because whether practicing the steps or not, I feel that the only way that we can pay back those who have helped us in our struggles to become sober is to pay that debt forward to those who will come after us seeking sobriety. I didn't know Dave. He died before my time here, while I was still drinking. But I have received the benefits of his experience, strength, and hope through those of you who did know him and were helped by him. That enables me, and others like me, to pass it to someone who may come here or elsewhere in need of help with their addiction to alcohol. Mark/Jeyu
JFDI
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Post by jeyu0422 on Sept 6, 2015 5:25:44 GMT -5
TuTu, I tried to quote a part of your post and reply below it, but somehow pushed the wrong button. I was going to say below your post, Now that's the glue I was referring too! There, I'll try another button
Mark/Jeyu
JFDI
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Post by jeyu0422 on Sept 6, 2015 5:22:07 GMT -5
" There is always something positive, we just have to look and believe." angelina/tutu
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Post by jeyu0422 on Sept 6, 2015 5:12:44 GMT -5
TuTu, Great to see you back! You're the glue that held the old place together and this place could use a little glue as well. I can't wait to hear about your big surprise! Mark/Jeyu
JFDI
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Sept 6, 2015 4:57:07 GMT -5
Post by jeyu0422 on Sept 6, 2015 4:57:07 GMT -5
Hey Sam, So good to come here and see your post and to see that you are, well, well! Mark/Jeyu
JFDI
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For Kim
Sept 3, 2015 13:19:06 GMT -5
Post by jeyu0422 on Sept 3, 2015 13:19:06 GMT -5
Dot, You may have "new forum performance anxiety", but what an enlightening post! You have the ability to take a very difficult to comprehend subject, drop the reader right in the middle of the situation, then show him/her how to fight their way out. I learn something every time I read one of your posts. Thanks. Mark/Jeyu
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For Kim
Sept 2, 2015 12:25:54 GMT -5
Post by jeyu0422 on Sept 2, 2015 12:25:54 GMT -5
Kim, As your counsellor said, the majority are not sober. This is a very difficult thing to do. If it were easy, everyone would be sober; I don't know of anyone who would CHOOSE to be an alcoholic. Just because you were not successful a year ago doesn't mean that you can't make it this time. I know we do this for ourselves, but I needed more than that. I had to focus on the relationship with my kids as something that was more powerful than alcohol in my life. Perhaps you could focus on a future relationship with your daughter in those moments of weakness. I saw in your post that you just talked to her for the first time in years; perhaps coincidence, perhaps not. Who knows. Kim, for fifteen or so years, I was one of those 70% that could not become sober. I was finally able to make this work about 16 months ago, and I KNOW that what you seek is worth the struggle. I wish you well, Kim. Mark/Jeyu
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Post by jeyu0422 on Sept 1, 2015 19:12:07 GMT -5
Hi Jenn, This guy sounds like an "ego driven mentality" for sure. It is easy to see how someone with this personality would get under your skin. From your previous post back on the old forum, it sounds like you know and understand this personality very well. I am not involved in AA, but there are jerks in all walks of life. I think some of the most irritating people on earth are those that attempt to force their beliefs on me to help me, save me, or whatever. I, personally, don't think this guy would know sobriety if it walked up and bit him in the, well, you know. I think you know what you want and need and he has none of it. i wish you well, Jenn. You're a good and kind person and deserve peace and happiness in life. Mark/Jeyu JFDI
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For Kim
Aug 28, 2015 21:19:20 GMT -5
Post by jeyu0422 on Aug 28, 2015 21:19:20 GMT -5
Hey Kim, That's something to hang on to for sure. I hope this is the first of many future conversations that you have with your daughter. Sometimes small things like this can provide a huge incentive to become sober. Mark/Jeyu JFDI
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Post by jeyu0422 on Aug 25, 2015 14:42:47 GMT -5
To TuTu and the Artist formerly known as Mark.......,
I breed race horses and I have two full siblings. Same sire (dad) and dam (mom). Both were born the same year via embryo transfer. Both are mares (females). One of them is a chestnut color and is a pretty well known race horse. The other one is grey and can't outrun me. Same genetics? No, even though they are full sisters. The way genetics works is that the father contributes 1/2 of his genetic makeup and the mother contributes 1/2 of her genetic makeup to form the offspring. Although it is likely that full sisters have significant genes in common, they are just as likely to share no genetic material as they are to share all.
I do feel that there is a hereditary predisposition to addiction, and when that genetically susceptible individual is exposed to an environment in which addiction can occur, addiction occurs. There is a small Texas company that just finished positive Stage Three trials on a drug that acts to inhibit the expression of a gene having to do with the production of serotonin in individuals with carcinoid syndrome. It would be a long and complicated explanation, but the jist of it was that they were able to create a drug that "turned off" a gene in an individual genetically susceptible to a certain condition.
By the way, I kinda miss the old controversial contentious poster, especially since I know that if we both live long enough, I will win this genetics argument. (I guess that statement could be considered controversial and contentious). But he would never give in anyway. He would say that it doesn't matter because recovery is much more than just breaking an addiction. He would say and has said that "...... alcoholism being a symptom has a purpose and the purpose is recovery, that is, if one realized that it's a symptom. Those that don't realize this whether they continue to drink or not, tend to live a miserable life."
No argument here.
Later, my friends.
Mark/Jeyu JFDI
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Post by jeyu0422 on Aug 24, 2015 23:56:14 GMT -5
Me too TuTu.
Mark/Jeyu
JFDI
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Post by jeyu0422 on Aug 24, 2015 23:49:40 GMT -5
Now that was just too slick! Mark/Jeyu JFDI
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Post by jeyu0422 on Aug 24, 2015 23:15:51 GMT -5
Wow, that was quite a jump and I dropped the horse trophy in the canyon between here and there, but at least my flower made it. TuTu, did you happen to purchase the replacement warranty when you bought me that horse trophy? If not, I'm gonna have to post a sign in lost and found.
Lost: One horse trophy. Engraved with Mark/Jeyu and JFDI
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Post by jeyu0422 on Aug 22, 2015 10:48:45 GMT -5
BuddyT, Thanks for all that you have done and for providing a soft place to land. Much appreciated. Mark/Jeyu
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