Hey Kim For me, I had to think about the holidays as ordinary days. The illusion of Christmas cheer coming from a bottle was not a reality for me. All drinking did for me was assure that when my kids woke up at 4 am to open presents, I was still drunk and on my way to a horrible hangover. They deserved better than that. Now that they are grown and staying with their mom for the holidays, I will wake up alone but I will be sober and I will be happy knowing that I'm better now. More alive and more reliable when they need me.
I understand that this time of year is especially difficult for folks that are estranged from family. It's awful I know. The short term "relief" alcohol may provide is really not relief at all. Just more of the same pain that contributed to the estrangement in the first place. Try to remember that booze will not help. Not really. Hang in there Kim
Hey Brett, In my early years I didn't spend Christmas drunk and actually had fun with my family, aunt and cousins. I miss those days now. Later there are horrible photos of me on Christmas day looking horribly bloated and horrendous. Its good that you are finding peace with the divorce and are better now. I'm telling people that I don't celebrate Christmas to avoid awkward questions. Only 6 days to go and I am thinking of it as an ordinary day as well or trying to. I never thought of the fact that booze caused the estrangement in the first place. Glad that you pointed that out to me.
HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE. I have been very busy working, shopping, cooking, dinners and parties. I can't wait now for days to get longer, more light and the arrival of spring. Calm, simplicity and beauty, winters are long here, the rebirth of nature always makes me feel happy. I had great times those last weeks, being around people drinking doesn't bother me, some drank to have fun, others drank just to get drunk. I was wondering if alcohol also brings suffering into their lives. It did to me, always brought me pain and many horrible feelings but my drinking wasn't normal, that's why I am an alcoholic. I will never poison my life again. I have so much to do and to enjoy. Sobriety is just amazing and I have learnt that good things happen when you don't expect them, magic of life that knows what's good for us when our time is right. I wish you all to be happy in 2016, everyday to be happy. It's a wish but we know that sobriety can make many dreams come true. Hugs to all and Bonne Année.