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Post by Dana on Aug 24, 2015 11:29:45 GMT -5
I'm trying not to focus on what will be lost on the old forum... but it's hard not to be sad to see it all go away. So many contributors over the years and I've learned from each and every one of them, whether I agree(d) with them or not. It's hard to know what content to move over here to our new home. The struggle I faced early on, for example, was very real at the time - and maybe it helped people to read about the journey, the transformation process. Not just me, but so many others too - and I'm not going to name names because I might leave someone out and don't mean to. lol
On the positive side... we are not homeless - we DO have a new home, thank you BuddyT!!
AND ... it's my understanding that the articles and information at alcoholism.about.com will STILL be there; it's only the discussion forums that are going away, and that is very good news for folks looking for information.
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Post by angelina1512 on Aug 24, 2015 12:11:28 GMT -5
Hey Dana,
it's good to see you. I think this site is very friendly for us. Change is always hard but baby steps, one day at a time and we should all be good. It's a pity it all just can't be downloaded on a disc so if we want to read it we can.
I'm sure we will all be ok. Just hope we get some newbies so we help them.
i know the SC site some of them are feeling the pressure. It's hard when you rely on something each day and then " poof" it's gone.
angelina
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Post by Dana on Aug 27, 2015 9:16:18 GMT -5
Hi Angelina! Welcome home. Both literally, and technologically. I am soooooo very glad that you were able to go through what you did, and be there for your family, without having to pick up a smoke or a drink.
I feel for the new quitters who have only just found the old forum and now having to move in to a new place - it's hard enough just to quit smoking. But I do think the new place is better than what about.com had to offer after their "re-vamp". I'm glad you're here! I'm glad we all made it over here. I hope others will find us too.
Dana
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Post by doodoodotdot1 on Sept 5, 2015 8:08:34 GMT -5
Hi Dana I know what you mean about the old forum. And it seems that I'm not the only one with new forum performance anxiety. My posting had greatly diminished on the old forum as I rarely felt I had much to add. I'm trying to come here more often but without more participation I'm afraid this place won't get its momentum going. Oh well. Change is good.
On a different note, I am meeting Igotaclue tonight for dinner. I don't know if you remember her but she started about the same time I did almost 3 years ago. We've become cyber friends and are now able to meet up F2F. I'm looking forward to it. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd have a friendship that started via the interenet. If you told me I would do that 4 years ago I would have laughed in your face. Well, what do I know?
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Post by Mark_LA on Sept 5, 2015 10:07:39 GMT -5
Hi Dana I know what you mean about the old forum. And it seems that I'm not the only one with new forum performance anxiety. My posting had greatly diminished on the old forum as I rarely felt I had much to add. I'm trying to come here more often but without more participation I'm afraid this place won't get its momentum going. Oh well. Change is good. On a different note, I am meeting Igotaclue tonight for dinner. I don't know if you remember her but she started about the same time I did almost 3 years ago. We've become cyber friends and are now able to meet up F2F. I'm looking forward to it. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd have a friendship that started via the interenet. If you told me I would do that 4 years ago I would have laughed in your face. Well, what do I know? That’s so cool that you and Clue are meeting up! I’m guessing you’ll have so much to talk about, you won’t know where to begin. My last and most enduring Relationship (capital “R”) had its genesis in the very earliest days of AOL. I had just gotten my first computer with a modem, and signed up with AOL as my internet provider. In my AOL “member profile,” I duly noted that one of my hobbies was auto racing. One day I got an e-mail from another AOL subscriber who was browsing through profiles and noted my “auto racing” hobby and wanted to know what kind of racing I liked. I e-mailed back, and we discovered we lived close to each other. We agreed to meet up and go together to an automotive museum in the area. We were together for nearly 4 years from that day on. In retrospect, it seems incredible and amazing that meeting someone online could ever have been that innocent, simple, and direct. Oh well, the world moves on (I’m gonna have to add that as my tag line). Thanks for the trip down memory lane!
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Post by Dana on Sept 5, 2015 12:38:33 GMT -5
Hi Dana I know what you mean about the old forum. And it seems that I'm not the only one with new forum performance anxiety. My posting had greatly diminished on the old forum as I rarely felt I had much to add. I'm trying to come here more often but without more participation I'm afraid this place won't get its momentum going. Oh well. Change is good. On a different note, I am meeting Igotaclue tonight for dinner. I don't know if you remember her but she started about the same time I did almost 3 years ago. We've become cyber friends and are now able to meet up F2F. I'm looking forward to it. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd have a friendship that started via the interenet. If you told me I would do that 4 years ago I would have laughed in your face. Well, what do I know? Hi Dot, that is very cool that you and clue are going to meet!!! I do remember her, not a lot of details I'm afraid, but I remember her presence and general contributions. I don't think we had a whole lot of direct communication between us, but I think she shared her wedding photo album? Or maybe that was someone else... A lot of it's a blur I'm embarrassed to say. Anyway, please tell her hello from me! And please please please tell us all about it tomorrow! :-)
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Post by Dana on Sept 5, 2015 12:50:57 GMT -5
In retrospect, it seems incredible and amazing that meeting someone online could ever have been that innocent, simple, and direct. Oh well, the world moves on (I’m gonna have to add that as my tag line). Thanks for the trip down memory lane! That's a great tag line "Oh well, the world moves on" for sure! :-) And also - I figured out how to do the "Quote" thing and not have to include the entire post. You can just delete the part you don't want to quote. At least, I think so anyway. We'll see if I'm right when I hit send. I too remember in the mid-90's we got the aol, my ex and I - there were chat rooms and we made friends with other couples - and play dates (as they're called now). Some connections were more meaningful than others, but in the end none of them lasted. Fast forward to 2009 when I quit smoking and found the smoking cessation forum at about.com ... going through something so deeply personal together, there have been some crazy deep bonds formed there. I've met about 20 of my quit buddies f2f over the years. A dozen of them, or more, I know in my heart we are friends for life. I've watched their kids grow, we've been there for each other through deaths and divorces, and marriages and births. This internet thing is pretty amazing at connecting people. Of course, you have to watch out for the crazies too.. but I've been pretty fortunate.
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Post by angelina1512 on Sept 5, 2015 23:06:40 GMT -5
Hey everyone,
staying positive. Now I think if I hadn't had the up bringing I had, and you all know not all of it good, but staying positive, even when the chips are down, that has seen me stay strong through many of things.
the morning of my mums funeral, I had been crying since I first arrived at the nursing home, on and off. I was asked to do a eulogy, now I couldn't even stop crying all week, how the hell was I going to talk about my mum.
i found strength I never knew I had, I got up, stood beside the coffin and I talked, even had people laughing, I did the whole speech, sat down and thought that's what mum would have wanted. The strong side of me.
so when the chips are down, there is always something positive, looking for it is the hardest part, but look and you shall find.
well that's what I believe anyway. There is always something positive, we just have to look and believe.
angelina/tutu
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Post by jeyu0422 on Sept 6, 2015 5:22:07 GMT -5
" There is always something positive, we just have to look and believe." angelina/tutu
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Post by jeyu0422 on Sept 6, 2015 5:25:44 GMT -5
TuTu, I tried to quote a part of your post and reply below it, but somehow pushed the wrong button. I was going to say below your post, Now that's the glue I was referring too! There, I'll try another button
Mark/Jeyu
JFDI
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Post by doodoodotdot1 on Sept 6, 2015 14:06:27 GMT -5
Hi Dana I know what you mean about the old forum. And it seems that I'm not the only one with new forum performance anxiety. My posting had greatly diminished on the old forum as I rarely felt I had much to add. I'm trying to come here more often but without more participation I'm afraid this place won't get its momentum going. Oh well. Change is good. On a different note, I am meeting Igotaclue tonight for dinner. I don't know if you remember her but she started about the same time I did almost 3 years ago. We've become cyber friends and are now able to meet up F2F. I'm looking forward to it. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd have a friendship that started via the interenet. If you told me I would do that 4 years ago I would have laughed in your face. Well, what do I know? That’s so cool that you and Clue are meeting up! I’m guessing you’ll have so much to talk about, you won’t know where to begin. My last and most enduring Relationship (capital “R”) had its genesis in the very earliest days of AOL. I had just gotten my first computer with a modem, and signed up with AOL as my internet provider. In my AOL “member profile,” I duly noted that one of my hobbies was auto racing. One day I got an e-mail from another AOL subscriber who was browsing through profiles and noted my “auto racing” hobby and wanted to know what kind of racing I liked. I e-mailed back, and we discovered we lived close to each other. We agreed to meet up and go together to an automotive museum in the area. We were together for nearly 4 years from that day on. In retrospect, it seems incredible and amazing that meeting someone online could ever have been that innocent, simple, and direct. Oh well, the world moves on (I’m gonna have to add that as my tag line). Thanks for the trip down memory lane! Hi Mark Yeah it was really fun. I talk to her a lot, text her even more, so it was kind of like seeing what I know animated....if that makes any sense. We had a little trouble planning so we only had a couple of hours but it was fun. I'll have to head down to So Cal to see her next time. That would NOT be bad. Maybe my daugher and I will go down Spring break. I have never made an internet friend before so this has all been a really new thing for me. If you had told me 4 years ago that something like this would be possible for me, I'd have laughed in your face. Even when I was new on the forum 3 years ago I really thought the whole thing was kind of 'fake'....silly me!
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Post by doodoodotdot1 on Sept 6, 2015 14:10:44 GMT -5
Hi Dana I know what you mean about the old forum. And it seems that I'm not the only one with new forum performance anxiety. My posting had greatly diminished on the old forum as I rarely felt I had much to add. I'm trying to come here more often but without more participation I'm afraid this place won't get its momentum going. Oh well. Change is good. On a different note, I am meeting Igotaclue tonight for dinner. I don't know if you remember her but she started about the same time I did almost 3 years ago. We've become cyber friends and are now able to meet up F2F. I'm looking forward to it. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I'd have a friendship that started via the interenet. If you told me I would do that 4 years ago I would have laughed in your face. Well, what do I know? Hi Dot, that is very cool that you and clue are going to meet!!! I do remember her, not a lot of details I'm afraid, but I remember her presence and general contributions. I don't think we had a whole lot of direct communication between us, but I think she shared her wedding photo album? Or maybe that was someone else... A lot of it's a blur I'm embarrassed to say. Anyway, please tell her hello from me! And please please please tell us all about it tomorrow! :-) Yes she shared her wedding pictures. That's the girl. She's doing well and has been visiting her massive family here in Idaho. I really feel like I know her so seeing her 'live' was just kind of an extension of what I already know. Pretty cool experience though.
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Post by Sam on Sept 13, 2015 22:31:47 GMT -5
I found this article in the Yahoo Business Insider by Kathleen Elkins that I found is on the mark, I wasn't able to attach a link, but I think it is related to what Ford was talking about, here it is:
Stop complaining — out loud and in your head — if you want to improve your finances.
Much of what separates wealthy people from average people is mental — rich people simply think, act, and make choices differently than the rest of us.
In "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind," author and self-made millionaire T. Harv Eker identifies a seemingly harmless daily habit average people engage in that the rich refuse to: complaining.
"Complaining is the absolute worst possible thing you could do for your health or your wealth," Eker writes.
When you complain, you're focusing on what is wrong with your life — and what you focus on tends to expand, Eker explains.
"Like attracts like," the self-made millionaire writes. "When you are complaining, you are actually attracting 'crap' into your life."
This leaves very little room for growth, particularly financial growth.
A fact often overlooked — or dismissed as elitist — is that your friendships and relationships could also have a major impact on your financial success. Steve Siebold, a self-made millionaire who interviewed over 1,200 rich people, found that the wealthy are deliberate about choosing their friends, and their choices have implications for their success and their net worth.
Eker makes a similar point about negativity. Separating yourself from other complainers is just as important as resisting the urge to complain personally, he emphasizes: "Negative energy is infectious. Plenty of people, however, love to hang out and listen to complainers. Why? It's simple: They're waiting for their turn!"
It's an easy cycle to fall into, but a costly one.
If you're in a financial rut, or looking to grow your wealth, stop complaining — out loud and in your head, Eker advises, and help yourself out by surrounding yourself with an upbeat, successful crowd.
"Remind yourself that you are creating your life and that at every moment you will be attracting either success or crap into your life," he writes. "It is imperative you choose your thoughts and words wisely!"
Thinking about it, this applies to recovery as well.
Sam
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Post by angelina1512 on Sept 13, 2015 23:16:45 GMT -5
Thanks Sam,
i really like all of it. It is so true, complain and you attract crap. How true that is.
i think whenever I/we are having a bad day, or are feeling low or depressed, your article should be read and JFDI.
so thanks Sam
angelina
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Post by blueskye on Oct 3, 2015 14:10:13 GMT -5
Tutes,
I'm sure your mum would be proud of you, giving a eulogy and making people laugh, while staying strong yourself.
Hope you're keeping well. I miss reading your posts.
Blue
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