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Post by angelina1512 on Mar 10, 2018 5:30:19 GMT -5
Hello my dear friends,
It’s now 4 years since I gave up drinking. I wasn’t sure if it was 4 or 5 but my dear friend Mark said it was 4. How times fly and how life has changed. I can’t even imagine being drunk or tipsy now and yet I was that every minute of every day over 4 years ago. It’s also 2years 7months and 10 days since I smoked. And the reason I know that is I have an app on my phone and every night at 7 o’clock it reminds me I have achieved another day.
So the cafe is going really well. Hubby just loves to cook and create. He has created a pie, an Aussie meat pie and is getting a name for himself for making them as well. People now come in and ask for the famous meat pie. So you can only imagine how happy that makes him. He makes a fresh batch every night after working all day. He helps me as much as he can in the cafe and cooks every weekend in the cafe to help take the pressure off me.
I have been given compliments from total strangers how nice it is to have the owner after making them the meal and coffee have a chat to them and tell them what to see in the area. Tasmania isn’t very big when you look on the map but it is when you are driving. I find helping them very rewarding. I even had two gentleman in the other day riding bikes from Colorado. They loved Tasmania but couldn’t stay long as they had family back home and could only spend two weeks here. They would ride 80-100 kilometers a day. Now that is a lot of pedaling.lol.
I hope everyone is well and happy. I wanted to include something that I got from Facebook. I hope you like it.
I will have to download that separate I think.
Love to all,
Tutu / Angelina
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Post by angelina1512 on Mar 10, 2018 5:32:53 GMT -5
I will try and include it. Not working. Not sure why but will try again later.
tutu
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Post by angelina1512 on Mar 10, 2018 5:41:42 GMT -5
I will try and include it. Not working. Not sure why but will try again later. tutu Attachments:
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Post by jeyu0422 on Mar 24, 2018 19:08:44 GMT -5
Hey TuTu, A late congratulations! I finally had a chance to sit down and find this place again. My old link quit working. I’m so glad to hear that the business is going well and that you sound happy. One of these days, I’m going to walk in as a customer, but I doubt I’ll be biking in. Maybe I’ll ride in on an old horse. Who knows. Later, friend. Mark/Jeyu
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Post by angelina1512 on Mar 25, 2018 0:05:13 GMT -5
Hey Mark,
yes all good down under and thanks thanks for the congrats. I wish you would ride up in a horse, how cool would that be.
i can only dream that you and Sparrow will come together and the 3 musketeers can all have a group hug.
cafe is going well, both hubby and I are working hard. Sounds like you might be burning the candle at both ends at the moment.
take care. Talk soon,
tutu
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Post by slimkim on Apr 3, 2018 12:07:17 GMT -5
HeyTutes You are so positive. I love reading your posts. You are keeping this place alive. I hold no resentment. My neighbour has now moved and we have no contact. He has his second wife back and moved to Carindale. I tried to warn his current wife so he has nothing to do with me. So proud of you for giving up smoking. I have been trying for 4 months but not successful. I became addicted to the gum. I am now sober through AA and have a sponsor. Finding it really hard. Enough about me. So proud of you
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Post by angelina1512 on May 13, 2018 5:59:42 GMT -5
Hello everyone,
its been a while since I have posted so thought I better let you know I am alive and well. Today is Mother’s Day and I survived another one. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of them but this year we had a Mother’s Day lunch at the cafe. It was a good day, a few couples travelling through from Queensland, a few from New South Wales and a few locals dropped by as well. We had frank Sinatra singing in the background. I thought of my Mum and how proud she would be of me.
i don’t drink and I don’t smoke. I get up each morning and face the day with a smile and a friendly hello. I chat to locals and people from all over the world. So I like to think that my glass in half full. My life is half complete, but that half is all I have, whether that will change no one knows. Each day I think of my children and grand children and each night I say good night to them, with a tear in my eye because they can’t hear me.
but no matter what life is it’s what we make of it. I have made some beautiful friends in this town but no one knows, no one could even imagine how sad I am as I seem so happy on the outside. In many ways I am happy, I try so hard every day to be kind, be friendly, smile, chat to total strangers, make them laugh, I try and some days are better than others but on Mother’s Day it really sucks.
so I survived another day. Tomorrow will be a little easier as I made it through the day with just a few tears.
the cafe is going well, hubby is working hard and just loves to cook. This weekend he made a Guinness pie, OMG it was just wonderful. we have plans to extend the cafe and have a big function room as well so we can seat more people. So life isn’t that bad. Tomorrow is another day.
I hope all the mothers reading this had a wonderful day. If you didn’t I totally understand that as well.
my next posting will be so much better than this one. As today just sucks.
love tutu
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Post by slimkim on Jul 16, 2018 23:48:46 GMT -5
How about another update Tutes? Like reading them. I totally relate about Mother's Day.
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Post by angelina1512 on Aug 3, 2018 6:49:08 GMT -5
Hello everyone,
Time I gave you all an update on things down under. I’m doing very well. Tasmania is still amazing and I feel very lucky to be living here. The cafe is going very well, a bit quiet at the moment as it’s winter down here and not as many tourists but it is giving us time to expand the business. We are making the cafe much bigger and we have applied for a liquor license, I know that should make you all raise an eye brow.
tasmania is getting very well known for its great wines and whiskey and also our beer, so hubby and I decided that while our customers have a great meal they should be able to taste our wonder alcohol. Now who would ever thought that I would serve alcohol, laugh if you must. Just because I can’t drink it doesn’t mean no one else can. I don’t have a problem serving it, and I will know when someone has had too much as well. I will be a very responsible sober bar tender.
we are both very excited about the extension, hubby being handy will do most of the work with me telling him what not to do lol. It means I lose my lounge room as that will become another sitting area, but we will lose the kitchen as that will become our lounge room. I don’t use our kitchen to cook as we cook all our meals as well in the cafe.
And i I forgot to mention it’s been 3 years since I smoked. That I still miss occasionally, but know it would only take one and I would be back into full time. So it’s none for me. I wouldn’t have time now to stop and smoke anyway. I hate the smell when someone comes in after they had a cigarette outside. I’m quite embarrassed that I once smelt like that.
i like the town we live in, both hubby and I have made some wonderful friends, we even have a social life now. Some are not comfortable that I don’t drink, but I notice it’s the ones that drink a lot find it more awkward. If I remember back when I was drinking I didn’t like it either. Having someone sober made me feel uncomfortable back then.
i also play darts now and absolutely love it. We play at the local pubs, one night a week. They all have coke and some of the ladies are ok with me being a non drinker.
so life is ok. Not perfect but ok. I’m proud of myself, I have worked hard at giving up drinking and smoking. I can’t change the past but I can make the most of the future. Hubby still drinks, I still buy it for him and pour it for him but I have no desire at all to ever go back.
i hope everyone is well. I still see a lot looking at the site so I thought an update would be good for the ones that remember me.
i still stay in contact with a few via email. I could never have made it without Mark and Brett, I knew if I ever wanted to drink again I would also let them down. To think so much hurt and pain because of alcohol, but because of it I am here. Because of alcohol I have made such wonderful friends. Life can be very strange indeed.
I haven’t done a painting since we opened the cafe, I have sold quite a few. We hope to have an area for me to be able to paint next winter. If I keep selling them I will need to replace the empty walls with something. so love to all from beautiful Tasmania.
Angelina /tutu
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Post by Dana on Aug 3, 2018 7:46:29 GMT -5
Hellooooo AngelinaTutu!! Who'd a thunk you'd be where you're at?? It all sounds fantastic. I'd love to come visit you someday in your cafe and gaze at your art on the walls (if there are any left!). At three years no smoking, I still missed it sometimes too - but I remembered what they told me, and I felt the same way: I'd rather be a non-smoker wanting a cigarette once in a while than a smoker constantly wishing I didn't smoke, or something like that! It's been 9 years now for me not smoking! And a little over 7 years without a drink. I think if I had done it the other way around (quit drinking first and then try to quit smoking) it would have been much more difficult. There are so many smokers at the AA meetings, sitting around outside getting that last puff in before they go into the meeting... and then they can't wait to get back out there for another after the meeting is over.
It's really good to hear from you! I was in the stepchat meeting the other day and clicked a link to "Bulletin Board" and it brought me to this site. I started poking around some of the old threads. Can't believe how quiet it's been here lately. I'm glad you checked in and glad you're doing well. xo
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Post by angelina1512 on Oct 20, 2018 5:38:20 GMT -5
Hello everyone
well we did it. We are now bigger and better and have a liquor license. Hubby and I have worked really hard to extend the cafe, many times I wonder what the hell we were doing. But today was the offical opening and it was a huge success.
most of the ones that visit and read will be the ones that lived my adventure coming to Tasmania. Packing up and leaving Queensland was a huge step. Giving up drinking, moving, our adventures on the way down in the truck.
now we have achieved much more than I would have thought possible. Giving up drinking and the smokes has made me a much more productive person. I no longer have to go outside to have a smoke, or get crabbie because I can’t have one. So I seem more placid these days.
now you probably read that there was a question to whether I was an alcoholic or not. Coming to this site when it was the old one and had more traffic was the best thing to happen to me. I have learnt so much about myself and willing to “ give it all I’ve got”. life is going to fast, so much to see and do. I haven’t had time to paint which I hope to get back too when summer is over. This will be a big time for us in the cafe as so many more tourists are coming to Tasmania. it really is a very beautiful part of the world. its penguins birthday tomorrow. After one. I have bought him a nice bottle of scotch, which he loves, also some chocolate which of course he will share with me.
so this is my update. We are officially a licensed cafe and art gallery. Who would have imagined me serving alcohol and have a mega amount of alcohol in the house. It’s ROFLMAO. Lol. just flicking do it. Now that is my motto.
hope everyone is well. Stay happy and healthy. You only get one try in this life so make the most of it.
love angelina aka tutu.
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Post by jeyu0422 on Oct 20, 2018 7:01:20 GMT -5
TuTu et al, I happened to check in last night for the first time in a long time. I was more that a little surprised that there has been quite a bit going on here. It reminded me of the old forum. Life is good for me. I sold my business, retired for a few weeks, decided that I was really not the retirin’ kind, and am opening another one. It is truly amazing what one can do when living in sobriety. More later; I need to get to work. Congratulations and Happy Birthday to Penguin! Mark/Jeyu
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Post by soberinmi on Oct 20, 2018 7:02:12 GMT -5
Hello everyone
. . . now you probably read that there was a question to whether I was an alcoholic or not . . .
love angelina aka tutu. Absolutely NO question! Put simply, despite the claim that you and the other trolls, I mean members, make, this website doesn't remotely provide enough support to get an alcoholic sober. Maybe someone who is just a "problem" drinker. Maybe not!
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Post by gwampa69 on Oct 23, 2018 20:34:21 GMT -5
Hello everyone
. . . now you probably read that there was a question to whether I was an alcoholic or not . . .
love angelina aka tutu. Absolutely NO question! Put simply, despite the claim that you and the other trolls, I mean members, make, this website doesn't remotely provide enough support to get an alcoholic sober. Maybe someone who is just a "problem" drinker. Maybe not! You realize you are the troll right? I mean, someone posts a positive update about their life on their own thread and you swoop in and spout your gibberish. You’re a whiny little thing. What’s your point exactly? Is it just about the definition of an alcoholic that’s got you so torqued with everyone here? There is a 12 step section to this “mostly dead” website. Why not hang out there with the “real alcoholics”?
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Post by soberinmi on Oct 23, 2018 21:42:59 GMT -5
Absolutely NO question! Put simply, despite the claim that you and the other trolls, I mean members, make, this website doesn't remotely provide enough support to get an alcoholic sober. Maybe someone who is just a "problem" drinker. Maybe not! You realize you are the troll right? I mean, someone posts a positive update about their life on their own thread and you swoop in and spout your gibberish. You’re a whiny little thing. What’s your point exactly? Is it just about the definition of an alcoholic that’s got you so torqued with everyone here? There is a 12 step section to this “mostly dead” website. Why not hang out there with the “real alcoholics”? Remember, I am the presumptuous one, so you said! The very first attack. So worst case you are looking in the mirror! Let's try something here. It is a fact that it is those things one dislikes in others that that one dislikes in himself! Anybody ever educate you about projection? How about some more banter that gives us a learning opportunity?
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