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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2015 15:00:47 GMT -5
(Sorry to divert the subject of family reaction.) What's up with this new site? I recognize a few old names, but what happened to the old site. One minute I thought I recvd an email that "poof" the site was gone and "poof" this new place exists. Is it internet politics? I saw your name Joey, so I know the old people are still around. Anyway, keep on fighting the good fight. Hey Gerri, sorry you didn't know about the move earlier. Buddy and the other moderators were told by About.com that all forums were going to be shut down, so he was kind enough to set up this new one for us. It's different, but if you keep coming back, you'll get used to it. Good to see you!
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Post by clue (Igotaclue) on Oct 26, 2015 13:17:24 GMT -5
I don't have much family left, husband, 2 kids, 2 sisters, 2 grand kids so me getting sober was not really a big deal. One thing that changed is hubby quit his vices so we could enjoy being sober together. My Daughter had to put some space between us so she could live her life with out my drama. It was heart breaking but we are speaking again. She now can become herself and not be a slave to my drinking. Three years now sober and you would never know that Alcohol had a strong roll in my life. The past is the past, just a really bad experience that taught me a lot about my self. I can do anything I put my all into, except predict the future, so I still live one moment at a time. I think that is one thing my family has learned from my drinking, forgiveness and to enjoy each minute of their life, that's all we have is each moment in time. Hugs Clue
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Post by sarb on Dec 31, 2015 0:45:01 GMT -5
Well i have just ruin my daughters xmas i just hope i can win her back am heartbroke about it
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Post by achilles1957 on Dec 31, 2015 16:44:25 GMT -5
Sarb, sorry to read that you're heartbroken. It's such a devastating feeling when we hurt our children because of our drinking, I remember thinking that I would never forgive myself let alone even hope that my children would forgive me. Time does heal but I believe that is not enough. I believe that my actions speak louder than my words of apology... it's all very well to say 'sorry' but the true value in those words, lie in becoming the person, consistently, that my children can be proud of, a me that I can be proud of.
How old is your daughter? I ruined my daughter's 18th birthday...I'd been on my four day "bedroom binge" and was recovering but not in time to plan or create her birthday celebrations. Forgiving ourselves is so very hard but so very necessary if we are to gain the strength to move forward, get well and eliminate alcohol as an option in 'life as it is'.
I hope you feel better as each day passes. Anything is possible ...without alcohol.
Take care for today,
Jenn
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Post by blueskye on Feb 18, 2016 11:32:52 GMT -5
Just popped in to see how everyone is. It'll take me a while to catch up with reading posts. I heard a rumour that the forum had closed. Glad it was just a rumour. Good to see you, Jenn! I hope you have forgiven yourself. It's a huge rock for you to carry if you haven't. Take care.
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Post by achilles1957 on Feb 19, 2016 19:11:10 GMT -5
Hey Blue, lovely to see you. I believe that I have forgiven myself although I'm also aware that I need to adjust some of my learnt behaviour. I have such trouble saying 'no' ... unconsciously always trying to compensate for my past guilt I believe, but I'm learning and practising. It's a journey right ?
I'm very happy right now yet taking nothing for granted, I am grateful for my past as it has led to my present, a gift.
Take care Blue and All,
Jenn
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Post by blueskye on Feb 21, 2016 10:34:25 GMT -5
Jenn, if you can get on-line check out Recovery 2.0 video conference. It's free. The videos are only available for 24 hours each day. Amongst today's speakers is my mentor Nikki Myers. I've taken yoga and Y12SR workshops and teacher training with her. I'm sitting in bed with my laptop and coffee watching the videos.
Good to see you, Jenn. One of these days when I visit my sister in Oz, I'll let you know when I'm in the country. Although she's on the west coast and I know you're on the east. She's living in Jakarta for three years, but pops home to check on her house and boys.
Blue
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