I’m so lost

[brokenbridge]

Hey I’m Becca I just turned 20...I want to quit I just don’t know how. I’m scared to be sober.

[jeyu0422]

Becca,
I’m sorry that no one has responded to you; perhaps I am the first to see your post. This place has been pretty quiet for a while. I just checked in and saw your post. Becoming sober involves dealing with life without the crutch of alcohol or drugs, and yes, that can be a scary proposition, but there are many who will come along and tell you that it can be done. When I quit drinking almost four years ago, I was scared as well, but I was more fearful of what I was becoming as an alcoholic. Becoming sober the most difficult thing that I’ve ever done, but it was the most rewarding in so many ways as well. Best of luck in your decision. I hope you choose a sober life. At 20, you have many great years ahead of you.
Mark/Jeyu

[gwampa69]

Hi Becca
As Mark said this place has been quiet for a while. But it is a place where we all came for support. And it worked for many of of us. Congratulations on making the difficult decision to ask for some help with this. It’s scary and lonely and takes a lot of guts to take that first step which you've now done. Depending upon how long, what, and how much you’ve been using, it can be dangerous to quit without medical supervision. So be careful about that part. Tell us a little more about what you’ve got going on. We do look in periodically
And more often for sure when people are active and need help.
Take care
Brett

[msthing5]

Hi. I'm new. Went to three doctors requesting medicine for alcoholism -- none would prescribe it. I need help because I know I can't do it by myself. Hi Becca. I feel you. Good luck to all of us.

[gwampa69]

Hi msthing5
Welcome to the forum. Sorry it’s not what it used to be. Maybe with some of this recent activity things will get rolling again. Glad you made the choice to seek some help. Share what you’re comfortable sharing, and try to put some time between you and your last drink. It gets easier but only if you can stop drinking long enough to start healing.
Brett

[jeyu0422]

Hello msthing5 and Becca,
Not to minimize your comments and concerns at all, but surrounding yourself with a support group who have overcome alcohol addiction may be just as important or more so than medications, at least it was for me. I was able to overcome this addiction with the help and support of people such as Brett on this forum. Others have found success through AA. I could not do it by myself either. I had tried and failed multiple times, but the last time, almost four years ago, was successful. Don’t give up. Keep trying. The rewards of a sober life will be well worth your struggles.
Mark/Jeyu

[igotaclue]

Hi new members. It says that I am new here but I just haven't logged in in a while. Congratulations to you coming here to share your journey. That is the first step admitting you are lost and afraid. It is scary facing your changes that has to be done. There is no simple action, no pill, no substitute for becoming sober. It will take everything you have to fight this addition. It is a daily struggle, a yearly struggle a life long struggle. There will be many ups and downs along with a lot of tears. In my journey I had to decide what those changes had to be made. I can only share what worked for me. I had to stop running from life. I had to stop blaming others for my unhappiness and drinking. I had to grow up and look at the true picture of where I wanted my life to go. It took many years for me to believe that my drinking was a problem. Everyone around me drank hard, it was the normal in my life. As years past my life became very depressing for me and I just thought it was because of the events happening around me that caused that. It was and is the alcohol that was my unhappiness. Letting go my self discuss was the first step. It was a hard thing to do as we all know. The pain we may have caused others is a heavy burden. Once you realized that the suffering of others was them watching us self destruct and they could do nothing to help us. The forgiveness comes by watching us heal ourselves and being happy about it. Starting my journey was the start of my life and the memories of my self destruction is burned into my brain. I will never forget which will keep me strong in my journey which is one day at a time. I am sober today and anxiously await for tomorrow. God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I can not change the COURAGE to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Hugs Igotaclue.

[jeyu0422]

Clue,
A blast from the past! You have always been an inspiration to me. Good to hear from you.
Mark/Jeyu

[igotaclue]

Thanks for the welcome back Mark. I remember the days of first getting sober and I thought I would check in to see if any newbee's need a friend. It is good to see you still here help others. Hugs Clue.

[jeyu0422]

Clu,
I remember well those first days, weeks, and months as well. I went around all day long humming Michael Jackson’s song “Man In The Mirror”.

I’m starting with the man in the mirror.
I’m asking him to change his ways.
And no message could have been any clearer,
If you want to make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself and change your ways.

(Those are all the words I remember, so I just repeated them over and over)

To anyone who might see this post, you can never become sober if you don’t make a commitment to change your ways.

Mark/Jeyu

[slimkim]

Welcome Igotaclue. I will always remember you from the withdrawals site. You kept me going.

[wolfie69]

I am also lost, but im 59 and have not been sober for 0ver 30 years,,,,im terrified,,,,

[Pam]

Hello. Welcome to the website. Quitting is scary because it's not about the drink it's about adopting a new lifestyle. Keep coming back for support.

[soberinmi]

Jan 3, 2019 15:24:57 GMT -5 wolfie69 said:

I am also lost, but im 59 and have not been sober for 0ver 30 years,,,,im terrified,,,,

Anything new and unfamiliar can be scary.  Recovering from alcoholism is a slow systematic process.  It requires reliance on others who have gone before you.  It requires getting out of our comfort zone at times.  It's about change:  if nothing changes - nothing changes.  It's about learning new tools and giving up our BFF: alcohol.  Its about learning about ourselves.  It's about restoration to a sane a way of life and thinking.  Its about being at peace with yourself and the rest of the world.

There are those on here who claim to have gotten sober with this website alone, but this website is not truly supportive enough to accomplish sobriety without other resources.  If you are not truly alcoholic, then this website alone might be enough.

I would suggest you go to to a few A.A. meetings, preferably speakers and beginners meeting, and make a few friends.  Try to identify or relate with others and not compare or find what you have in common with the other meeting attendees and not look for the differences, there will always be differences.

Jan 3, 2019 15:36:40 GMT -5 Pam said:

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
― Albert Einstein

While I agree that gratitude is important to an alcoholic, I think Albert Einstein said something more important to alcoholics: "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results."