Post by sweetmom on Feb 9, 2017 16:06:19 GMT -5
Hello, I am sorry to say I think I am married to an alcoholic. 2 years ago I had a series of strokes and landed in a rehab center 100 miles and a state away for 3 weeks. He has been my carer for 2 years. Now don't get me wrong, I can do most things, bathe, walk (with a cane), cook, clean and I have started driving again (out of necessity). I get up in the mornings and cook his breakfast and fix his lunch to take to work. I do not work, I am on disability because of cognitive issues and seizures. I have only had one, but I am on meds for it now.
He drinks at least a 6 pack of beer and 5-6 shots of tequila every night. He is falling down drunk by 8:30-9:00pm. I'm at my wits end. I've asked him to quit drinking the tequila and just drink the beer, but he just poured himself another shot. I am trying to improve as much as I can and for the most part he doesn't have to do much to help me, so there shouldn't be much caregiver stress there. But....................he is making more than there is by stressing over the stress that isn't there. Does that make sense? No it doesn't. But another excuse for an alcoholic to drink. Too much stress. Thats what he tells everyone. He's under so much stress. From work, from home, from family, from friends.................from everyone. This has been going on for 2 years+. We cannot go to most places to eat here because he has been so rude to the employees that work there. I am going to have to leave him I'm afraid, in order for me to continue to improve. He wants me to be dependent on him, but on the other hand I cannot depend on him when he drinks so much. That doesn't make sense either. I don't know what to do.
Thanks for reading,
SweetMom
He drinks at least a 6 pack of beer and 5-6 shots of tequila every night. He is falling down drunk by 8:30-9:00pm. I'm at my wits end. I've asked him to quit drinking the tequila and just drink the beer, but he just poured himself another shot. I am trying to improve as much as I can and for the most part he doesn't have to do much to help me, so there shouldn't be much caregiver stress there. But....................he is making more than there is by stressing over the stress that isn't there. Does that make sense? No it doesn't. But another excuse for an alcoholic to drink. Too much stress. Thats what he tells everyone. He's under so much stress. From work, from home, from family, from friends.................from everyone. This has been going on for 2 years+. We cannot go to most places to eat here because he has been so rude to the employees that work there. I am going to have to leave him I'm afraid, in order for me to continue to improve. He wants me to be dependent on him, but on the other hand I cannot depend on him when he drinks so much. That doesn't make sense either. I don't know what to do.
Thanks for reading,
SweetMom