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Post by yvan on Jul 12, 2016 16:03:39 GMT -5
Hey Everyone, I made it past the bottle shop yesterday. I actually have no money left to drink with which is a good thing; removes the temptation. Not that I haven't been known to get loans in the past. I had practically zero cravings yesterday probably because I was busy all day. Today my parents are bringing over plants for my garden and lunch. I bought my dad a birthday present as it was his birthday yesterday. Nothing more to report except a few stomach and liver pains still. Have a great day everyone. Hi kim. 'Anything that stops you buying a drink during the early days is a victory. Anything will do and you will find other good reasons to stay sober, even better, you won't find anymore reasons to buy a drink. Too early for that, so stick to the ones that stop you. Being busy is one of them. Boredom is not. Keep being busy and it will be a month soon. You're going to feel better and better with a bit more time. Happy birthday Kim. Take care.
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Post by gwampa69 on Jul 12, 2016 18:46:25 GMT -5
Hey Kim I agree with everyone's advice. Stay busy, stay in the moment and know that the unpleasantness of early abstinence WILL go away. It takes time and focus. Both of which you have plenty of. Remember, momentum feels great. As you gain it, it does wonders for the mind and your outlook on everything.
And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
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Post by jeyu0422 on Jul 12, 2016 19:01:30 GMT -5
Happy Birthday Kim! (Hope I'm not too late with that). To add my 2 cents worth, even if you have to find things to do, find them. I was doing some reading and a lot of people recommend adopting a pet if you don't have one. I know that Brett, Ang, and I have each adopted a dog since we quit drinking. Pets promote responsibility, and more importantly, can truly show unconditional love. I have a little mixed breed that I adopted about a year and a half ago. I definitely think she has some mental issues (she loves chewing leather couches) and I think I was the third and last Mr Foster, but she thinks I am absolutely perfect. When I come home at night, she is always overjoyed. I have taught her a few tricks and we are going to take some obedience classes together. Just a thought .
Happy birthday!
Mark/Jeyu
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Post by angelina1512 on Jul 13, 2016 5:58:39 GMT -5
Happy Birthday Kim! (Hope I'm not too late with that). To add my 2 cents worth, even if you have to find things to do, find them. I was doing some reading and a lot of people recommend adopting a pet if you don't have one. I know that Brett, Ang, and I have each adopted a dog since we quit drinking. Pets promote responsibility, and more importantly, can truly show unconditional love. I have a little mixed breed that I adopted about a year and a half ago. I definitely think she has some mental issues (she loves chewing leather couches) and I think I was the third and last Mr Foster, but she thinks I am absolutely perfect. When I come home at night, she is always overjoyed. I have taught her a few tricks and we are going to take some obedience classes together. Just a thought . Happy birthday! Mark/Jeyu Hey Kim, I hope you had a wonderful birthday. I couldn't message last night as we had bad storms and lost power. It was a really rough night and we are expecting the same again tonight. so I think Marks idea about getting a pet is a wonderful idea. I know with Mary when hubby is away she is always happy to see me, I can talk to her and pets are great company. They always give unconditional love, and are amazing company. I have wonderful conversations with Mary. Lol. Funny part is she seems to understand, knows when to come up to me and snuggle down. we are off to Western Australia on Tuesday, my neighbor who had Mary as one of her dogs for her work is going to look after Mary. Mary loves her and will be fine. She was our priority, if my neighbor wasn't available we couldn't, or wouldn't go on holidays. she let us know how your day was. What did you do? Did your parents come over? You are getting really good advice here, staying busy is priority. Before you know it it will be the end of dry July and you will have a month already done and dusted. hope your birthday was special. tutu
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Post by slimkim on Jul 13, 2016 15:22:22 GMT -5
Hey Yvan, Brett, Jeyu and Ang, Thanks for all the birthday wishes. It was truly great to get all those messages. Staying busy is definitely the key. I feel like I'm starting to gain momentum just feel like I'm in a bit of a fog sometimes. I didn't realise how much of life I was missing out on with fairly constant hangovers.
As for my birthday it was spent mainly helping my parents do the garden. I haven't had a garden for 10 years now so I'd lost my green thumb. The only problem is that they went a bit crazy with the pruning and I now have a yard full of tree branches to get rid of. At least I can't complain there is nothing to do lol. I have a nice garden now just hope the plants don't die on me, they tend to do that on me. I could never have afforded all the plants so I'm happy.
I would love to get a dog, actually would kill to have one but my neighbour pulled down half the fence line and put trees there to hide the gap. So no cute doggie to go 'woof' for me or cuddle me all day. If me and my neighbour can ever agree about a new fence I'll definitely get one. That's so cute about Mary Ang. They are great company. I love doggie stories. I loved hearing about Homer as well Brett. What's your dog's name Jeyu? Thanks Yvan for popping in again. You always have great advice.
Cheers to another sober day starting!
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Post by angelina1512 on Jul 14, 2016 5:48:43 GMT -5
Hey Kim,
nearly half of july has has gone already so you are doing great. Pity about the fence, could you not put up chicken wire to keep the dog in?
its good to keep busy, we have been in tassie nearly 2 years so it goes very fast. I only have 3 more shifts till I finish for my holidays, so I can't wait. I need a break, I'm feeling old at the moment. Lol. Hubby still thinks I look 30 :-)
i have just about finished the penguin. Will post a picture when he is all nice and shiny.:-))
keep busy kim, this time you WILL do it.
tutu
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Post by slimkim on Jul 14, 2016 6:25:51 GMT -5
Hey Ang, That's a great idea. I'll seriously think about it. Just a small dog would do for company. I can understand you feeling old. Hope you have a great holiday soon.
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Post by jeyu0422 on Jul 14, 2016 7:14:05 GMT -5
Hi Kim, You sound good. To answer your question, my dog is a little terrier cross named Soxie. I call her my little "terrierist". She goes to work with me every morning and comes home with me every evening. The second I sit down, she's in my lap. I/we have to go to work, but I'll try to figure out how to post some pictures of her later. You sound great; keep up the good work! How many days are you now? Mark/Jeyu
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Post by slimkim on Jul 16, 2016 4:04:52 GMT -5
Hey Jeyu, Cute name. I had a dog called Roxy once. Thats great company her going to work with you everyday. Its the end of day 16 today although it seems much longer. I've been busy with my college course, I have an assessment due this Friday. The start of a new subject is always a bit overwhelming but I always get there.
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Post by gwampa69 on Jul 16, 2016 9:58:58 GMT -5
Hey Kim 16 days! That's awesome to see. It's a slog at first I know. It sounds like you are doing really well, nice new garden, college courses, posting and reading here. Great job. Makes me happy to "see" this happening. Walk on!
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Post by angelina1512 on Jul 16, 2016 17:47:37 GMT -5
Hey Kim 16 days! That's awesome to see. It's a slog at first I know. It sounds like you are doing really well, nice new garden, college courses, posting and reading here. Great job. Makes me happy to "see" this happening. Walk on! Day 17 today Kim. Your Doing awesome! If you get to one year we will have to make you a musketeer as well. A very special privilege to be number 4 of our group:-) stay busy, strong and maybe your could start drawing. What you have saved on alcohol invest in some art work. You are very good with jewelry so maybe it's someone you could try. The reject shop has some cheap stuff to start out. I think you are artistic, maybe give it a try. each day is a victory, don't forget that. It takes more guts to stay away from it than to pick it up,again. Quitting isn't for sissies!!!!!!!!!! tutu
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Post by jeyu0422 on Jul 16, 2016 21:26:46 GMT -5
Hey Kim, I'm very proud of you. Those of us who have been where you are know just how hard it is to get there. Long ago, on the old forum, the phrase "sober equity" was used and I think it applies here. Those are 16 rough days behind you; over two weeks in the bank. Save them and add to them. Congratulations! Mark/Jeyu
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Post by slimkim on Jul 17, 2016 0:52:52 GMT -5
Thanks Jeyu, It has been a hard 16 days. Starting my course and my birthday, all creates stress for the mentally ill. I don't really think I'm that mentally ill except for alcoholism. I suppose it comes down to your reasons to want to drink. Thanks for the congratulations.
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Post by slimkim on Jul 18, 2016 22:23:50 GMT -5
Hey Everyone, My psychiatrist recommended staying away from my parents today to prevent the cycle of abuse continuing. I've been on my own for 25 years as I moved out when I finished by degree. That was why I first went to see him, when my grandmother died who was like the mother figure for me. He thinks I'm going okay, just full of anxiety. He commented on my smoking as he could hear the air going in and out. So another thing to give up. I don't really want to go into how abusive my mother was, except that I used to come out of my bedroom in the morning and count how many minutes before I got yelled at. Normally it was about ten minutes. I only made it to age 20 by going out every night. Anyway he thinks my parents are too much for me. Maybe its their strict religious beliefs that make her act that way. Maybe its just her pushing my buttons. Don't know and noone else can help if I don't have a clue.
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Post by slimkim on Jul 30, 2016 4:44:30 GMT -5
Hey Everyone, I've done an about face as far as my parents are concerned. They may be deeply religious but their heart is in the right place concerning me. My mum said that she gave up years ago trying to stop me drink, which noone could have stopped me do. I think I am too influenced by a friend who twists everything. They are in for the long haul and havent' given up on me so that's all that matters. So here's to another sober day!
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